Proverbs 18:22 (NKJV)

22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.

I have been in this world for over four decades and my wife and I have been married for two of them. While most people describe their marriage as something they have endured, my wife and I have enjoyed a thriving and growing relationship that has only gotten better through the continued test of time. Our happiness has been exposed to the same ups and downs that everyone’s marriage brings, which makes it difficult to watch many of our friends and family go through bitter divorces, remarriages, and on some occasions, never have the opportunity to marry at all. Through all of it, one thing has become very clear: Our generation has been overwhelmingly set up to fail in long-term relationships, and the relationship my wife and I have enjoyed is truly a rare blessing.

The truth is, our world is very much against the structure and foundations of the traditional family. Today’s economic and cultural climate pushes families to be two income households, which comes at a great cost of personal investment in communication, nurturing, and fellowship in family relationships. As a result, the general attitude toward marriage is overwhelmingly bleak for those who have yet to find their partner, and even more surprisingly, for many who have. I cannot recall one time in recent, or even expanded, memory when another man or woman who was married described their marriage as a “good thing” or “in favor”, or if they did, it was with an attitude of discontentment. In reality, who can blame them? Wives can only stomach being called “The Old Ball and Chain”, “The Warden”, and “ The B****” and husbands can only stomach being called the “The Extra Child”, “A Manbaby”, and “The A******” for so long. It is impossible for a reasonable man or a woman to reflect on a marriage that contains those beliefs and attitudes as a “good thing”. Even in Christian homes, these attitudes are prevalent and lurking.  

God, in all his wisdom, all his care, and all his love, had a perfect design meant for us.  Unfortunately, even since the beginning of time, we have succeeded in complicating, perverting, and destroying it. In essence, we, his greatest creation, have made an existence out of refusing his will, and as we can witness today, it has not come without a price:

  • Spiritual health and fulfillment for adults and children alike is at an all-time low.
  • Depression and anxiety for adults and children are at an all-time high.
  • The core family of a two parent home with their original spouse and all their children is at an all-time low.
  • Sexual, chemical, and spiritual experimentation and confusion are at an all-time high.
  • And so on and so on…

Is this any surprise given the consistent and rapidly decreasing alignment with the institution and statutes of Christianity? It is getting ugly fast, and the separation between the “sheep” and the “goats” (Matthew 25:31-46) is getting harder and harder to observe. It is unfortunate that there is such a lack of definitive support for God’s perfect marital design both inside and outside of his church. Experiencing the Love, Joy, and Peace that God always intended takes so much more than an emotional and physical love. It requires a spiritual bond that endures– and even thrives– in adversity, sickness, financial disaster, and alike, because at the end of the day, none of it is experienced alone, but rather, it is experienced as one body, one flesh, and one spirit.

The joy of this design is that it can be experienced by anyone who desires it, regardless of the state of your marriage, your histories as individuals or as a couple, your spiritual journey, or other worldly measures like age, income, education, etc.

Marriage can be joyful, your attraction for your significant other can perpetually grow until the day you die, and family can be the reason you do everything in your life rather than the burden that distracts from it. It doesn’t take much… only obedience to the perfect design God has had for us for over 2000 years.

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